Happy Father's Day to all those dads taking good care of their families! I just read a text of Barack Obama's father's day speech at the Apostolic Church of God in Chicago and loved it. I'm glad he was bold enough to hit the nail on the head during a presidential season when he should be 'watching his words'. Common sense and not political correctness, tells us that present/involved dads play a great role in shaping a child's life. Its amazing to see our son respond to my husband's voice. He knows there's a dad in the house who loves him and won't let him get away with acting a fool. I feel incredibly blessed to be watching the boy he is becoming as a result of a loving, playful, firm, present dad. Obama is right - dads are key to breaking the cycle of poverty, broken families and demanding the best from their children.
My husband, my big brother Joe and my uncles are all great dads who shaped my view of men and taught me there are some good responsible men in the world. So kudo's to great dads out there taking care of business! My father decided not to be a part of our family and we grew up with my single mom in Nairobi. My greatest blessings included my uncles who stepped in as male authority figures and models. Their involvement in our lives exemplified the family ties often present in African families. They were heavily involved during my wedding negotiations with my husband's family. In Kamba tradition (my tribe, my hubby's is Luo) there are several negotiation meetings to determine if the man deserves to marry their girl/daughter. My uncles definitely put my husband through the wringer, he thought long and hard about the promises he made to them that he would take care of me. I'll write about that in the near future. Back to great dad's .....
The National Fatherhood Initiative has some great resources on for men committed to being present dads. The Father's Forum online is another great site I came across with good tips for first time fathers written by men. I learned early that my husband was more likely to listen to advice that was 'guyspeak'. The African American Healthy Marriage Initiative has some great information on building strong marriages & families in the black community. Another great resource is the Christian parenting website of Focus on the Family. In conclusion, be a present and involved dad - your kids will thank you for the rest of their lives. As Obama said "I resolved many years ago that it was my obligation to break the cycle — that if I could be anything in life, I would be a good father to my girls," Sasha and Malia are two blessed little girls to have a dad committed to being there for them.
I am pretty proud to say that my father has been my number one fan my whole life and when I raise kids I want to raise them in the same style as my father. Not everyone has that pleasure and I am forever thankful for that one.
ReplyDeletespoiled your good initiative with dragging obamas name. why didn't u do that last year? just be mature and stop idolising this american imperialist. he will continue supporting killings of iraqis, afghanistans, etc just like all americans but i guess not all of us are able to see through the charade. u dont have kenyan heroes or even african? shame on you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting a comment! By the way, read the context of my post - I was reacting to the text of Obama's speech & therefore had to quote him. As I said in the post I quoted my own personal experience of great KENYAN men in my life starting with my husband, big brother and uncles.
ReplyDeleterelationship education: there is no need to defend your position of quoting Obama since he was spot on! Sometimes we need to hear the truth, someone may not like the messenger but the message hold the truth.
ReplyDeleteI have no idea why people are so up in arms about what was said or who said it. Regardless of color or culture, men do play an important role in children lives and they are those that need to be reminded.
Thanks for the post!